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Connect with Orla Collins,

I Can Offer a Safe Space to Talk When You Most Need It

from Toronto, Canada

Connect with Orla Collins,

I Can Offer a Safe Space to Talk When You Most Need It

from Toronto, Canada

Introduction

Headline:

I Can Offer a Safe Space to Talk When You Most Need It

I am a(n):

Reiki Master | English Major | Serious Jane Austen Fan | Intuitive and Empathic | Direct & Gentle | Most Excellent Listener | Dublin Born and Bred | Mother of three

I am the go-to for:

Direct Advice with a Splash of Humour and Empathy

What I do:

People come to me to talk about ALL sorts of things: the inability to say no, the relationships that they want to improve or create - including the one with themselves, goals, hardships & challenges, divorce, cancer, toxic friendships, the passion they long to follow, and more.

I have always created a warm and welcoming space to work through these types of conversations....and so I paired it with tea and cake and made it official.

Services

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Let's Have a Quick Cup of Tea (30 minutes)

$30


  • Over the phone
  • 30 minutes
  • 10 call(s) remaining this month

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Let's Have a Cup of Tea & Cake (60 minutes)

$149


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  • 1 hour
  • 10 booking(s) remaining this month

Offer

My Offer:

I want to give more people a safe, nurturing and calm space to really tune in and to talk out what really matters.

My ideal target audience:

Mothers
People-pleasers
Divorcees
Perfectionists
Over Thinkers
Emotionally or Unemotionally Charged Women
Women who Have a Hard Time Saying No & More

I can and want to help you:

  • recognize what healthy boundaries looks like for YOU and how much happier and healthier YOU will be when you learn how to find, respect and acknowledge them.
  • change the dynamics the relationship in your life that is draining you so you can take dominion over your own life and make it SPARKLE!
  • verbalize what is really going on in your life and how how small but CONSISTENT changes might make all the difference.
  • notice and pay attention to your physical reactions to certain situations, questions I ask, and topics we discuss.

About

Why me:

What's the only prize that people pleasers hate? The Nobel Prize!

In the past, not only was saying no hard for me, I didn't really want to. A huge part of my self-worth was wrapped up in being able to do everything, and then tie it up with a bow as I put my lipstick on.

Now I am so comfortable paying attention to what is going inside of me, of who I am as a person, that I help other people look inside and find that in themselves. I can help you find where the guilt comes from so you can wave it goodbye, manage your own time and energy, and create healthy boundaries so you can rock your life!

A little bit about myself:

I'm Orla Collins, Life Coach, Reiki Master, English graduate and serious Jane Austen fan. I have three children of my own and some extras from time to time.

I am intuitive and empathic, softly spoken and absolutely passionate about holding a safe space for people when they most need it.

I love a well-made cup of tea, chilled bubbly and peonies. I cherish dry humour and a good metaphor.

But most of all I love the way a client's face and voice lights up upon realizing that there is a way forward through self-imposed limitations towards the life they passionately want to lead.

What it’s like to work with me:

There are some things I can promise you when you work with me - my full attention, a calm, gentle space and a bit of soft Irish humour thrown in.

I combine my innate empathy and intuition with my experience as a Montessori teacher, mother, cohesion manager, serial entrepreneur, and my training as a Martha Beck Wayfinder, to encourage you to deeply and thoughtfully examine whatever it is that is keeping you stuck in your life. When we find that thing, I will help you to dissolve it, so that you can take ownership of YOU again, making you sparkle as you step up as the Leading Lady in your own life!

Sometimes there is a little bit of homework. But it's always pleasant, I promise!

I hold most of my calls over Zoom but can also do them over the phone.

Professional experiences:

  • Coach at Orlacle Coaching
  • Cohesion Manager at Garner Distributed Workflow Inc
  • Montessori Teacher at In Ireland, England and Canada.
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Educational experiences:

  • Life Coach Training at Martha Beck Wayfinder Life Coach Training
  • BA in English at University of Toronto
  • AMI Montessori Teacher at Sion Hill, Dublin, Ireland
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Portfolio

Where else you can find and follow me online:

My portfolio:

Who were you before you learnt to hide parts of yourself?
I was shown this photo for the first time two years ago. I had forgotten that girl ever existed. The one who looked straight into the camera, knowing she was enough, as is.
Soon after that photo was taken, I began to suppress what I wanted out of life and became an expert in figuring out that pleased other people and giving them that.
I was the kind, sweet, diplomatic one. The one who could be relied upon to make sure everyone was looked after - a total mother hen before I turned ten.

I continued in this mode for decades. As I recall one particularly critical, life altering decision, I now recognize that I was completely caught between what other people I loved wanted. I can’t remember where I included myself in that decision.
Then I had my own children. I was so happy with them but continued looking after everyone else - dinners, huge parties, festive occasions, late night talks with sad friends, and then up early with my own babies, as well as the dishes from the previous event.
I thought it was just me. That I wasn’t organized enough- goodness knows, many guests said that very thing.
So I tried harder. With the inevitable result - health issues that drained me physically, mentally and emotionally.
It took me a long time to figure out that I needed healthy boundaries and longer still to develop them.
But I did develop them and now, instead of living in a state of constant anxiety about other people and what they want, I am grounded and secure, knowing that I am in charge of my time, energy and affections.
Even better, I get to spend my days helping other people figure out what they really want out of life. - How to stop long enough to listen to themselves rather than someone else. - How to say no - when no is what they want to say.
Would you like to remember who you were BEFORE you became what everyone else wanted you to be?
Email orla@orlaclecoaching.com and let the conversation begin.

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What song represents your life right now?
If you were singing in a Broadway musical would you be belting out “I am what I am, and what I am needs no excuses”? Or would you be ruefully crooning “I’m just a girl who can’t say no”? Can’t say no to your boss?
Your children or your partner?

Can’t say no to your parents or your in laws?

Or is it hard say no to what you think society expects of you?

In my experience, people often think that givers keep on giving because they enjoy it. And, very often we do. However, constantly giving our time and energy out to others and forgetting to give it to ourselves, leads to total burnout.
Today could you think of one little thing that drains you, one thing that does not add to your life, and could you say no to that thing?

And then think of one thing that brings you joy? And could you give that to yourself?
For me it’s going to be an evening spent with dear friends I haven’t seen for some time. I know spending time with them will bring me joy. But that only works because I said no to overwhelm today and took time for my yoga practice.
Let me know in the comments what it’s going to be for you this weekend.
#bringingjoy #morejoy #youcansayno #youdoyou #takecareofyourself #laurenwallet #catherinecowan #beyourownjoy
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Would you adopt this dog, give it to your partner and say - here, you love her and, when I can see that you’re love her, I will love her too?

Would you say, she’s not great at living with other people, her hair gets everywhere, and she needs to be walked twice a day, not to mention the feeling. But, until I know that you can cope with that, I’m not going to light up when I see her adorable face? I’m not going to enjoy Fall walks in the park. I’m not going to swim in a sparkling lake, or have my photo taken or fully embrace life?

No one would do that to a dog and yet we do that to ourselves all the time. We look at all the things about ourselves that we perceive to be “wrong”. That we have annoying habits, that we need constant reassurance, that our thighs are too big, that we aren’t where we thought we should be by this age and that we are unlovable.

We put this onto the people in our lives. We think, until you can love my faults, until you can show me I’m lovable, I can’t love myself.

We need to turn that thinking on its head. It’s only when we love ourselves that we can truly let another person love us.
It’s only when we can show ourselves compassion and empathy that we can be open about the things we keep hidden.
It’s only when we acknowledge and embrace our shadows, when we love ourselves warts and all, that we can live our deepest and best lives. I know you are lovable as you are. But the only thing that is really important is whether or not YOU know it!

Ponder on the things about yourself that you think make you less than completely lovable.
Then ask yourself, as @byron.katie does
-Is this true?
-Can I be sure it’s true?
-Who am I with that thought?
-Who would I be without that thought?

I was regularly teased about my skin through my teens. I kept myself covered up for so long. Now, however, I totally embrace feeling “the rain on my skin”. And if other people don’t like it - that’s so not my problem.

What is it about YOU that YOU are ready to LOVE?
(DM me privately if you prefer.) #loveyourself #loveyourselffirst #loveyourselfquotes #youareenough #youarebeautiful #youareworthy

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Put on the kettle. Pull up a chair. We need to have a chat!
A chat about that voice in your head. You know the one. The mean girl voice. The one that says things like you are not good enough, you are not where you should be, you are alone, you are needy or worthless, yeah, that one.
She is pretty intense. It is like living with a bitchy teenager who is with you all the time. And that’s exactly what she is. She is that age, remember, when you thought you knew everything and were simultaneously terrified that you did? That this was all you would ever know? That it was always going to be like this?

She wants you to be incognito all the time. Don’t step out of line, don’t wear the bright lipstick, isn’t that dress a bit too sexy, don’t ask for that raise, don’t ask for help, don’t expect support - you’re fine, just suck it up, don’t rock the boat.

But here’s the thing, there’s a reason we don’t let 14 year olds drive or move out in their own. They are not emotionally mature enough to be in charge.
It’s the same with the voice in your head. She is not emotionally mature enough to be in charge. You can thank her for her concern but then gently steer her in another direction. Explain to her that you know she loves you, that she is trying to protect both of you, but that it doesn’t serve either of you to play small.
Assure her that you are in charge. That you know you are lovable. That you know you are competent. That you know you are enough.

Then give her a hug and a cookie and tell her to go take a nap while you head out and blaze the trail for who you were born to be! After you finish your tea, of course.
#putonthekettle #meanvoice #meangirls #meangirlvoicebegone #alwaystimefortea #tellyourdaughters #orlaclecoaching

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